Q:I’m a bit self conscious about my promiscuous past and am not sure if I should tell my boyfriend about it- if so do I go into details or just put it out there as general statement?
Too Many Guys- Wisconsin
Zach’s Wisdom and Answer:
Don’t be self-conscious about it, but also don’t give him details. BAD IDEA. I think it’s good to have a bit of promiscuity in your past, it means that when you do find the right guy, it wasn’t for lack of experience. You will always know that you are together with your boyfriend for the right reasons and not a false sense of love because you don’t know any better. I love a girl with a bit of experience, I sure as hell wouldn’t go to a Dr. who had only seen three patients….
For him, letting you know you have a past is honest which is good, but…more than likely he is going to feel ashamed if he wasn’t equally promiscuous and probably intimidated either way. It’s another weird Male ego thing that dates back to 1950’s, it’s better to just leave it be. Also the last thing you want to do is have him constantly thinking of you with the high school football team. If it comes up, just tell him that you have had other boyfriends, but you’re with him because he is the best of them all. And if you have a large “other guy” t-shirt or boxer collection…it’s probably time to get rid of them.
