Question: Ok, I’ve had a boy on the side for the last six months of my relationship. I stopped it recently and want to be faithful now, but the guilt is killing me. Should I just tell my BF and hope he can understand that it’s done and over and I want to and will be faithful?
No more Guilt – L.A.
Zach’s Answer and Wisdom
Are you nuts? Why don’t you post a video on youtube of your affair and put an “Im sorry” in the credits? I’ve got a better idea. You’re obviously not happy in the relationship or you wouldn’t have been banging some other guy in the first place. Why don’t you break it off now and save both of you the heartache. I don’t care what your reasons were for sleeping around, or for not telling him what the problem was in the first place.( I’m going to guess fear of letting him how you truly feel and some deep-seated insecurities of your own) Point of the matter is that six months isn’t a mistake or anything justifiable , it’s a pattern. That pattern should let you know how you feel about your boyfriend on any conscious or subconscious level. Give it a rest, go find somebody that makes you want to be faithful at day one and start communicating with the next guy before you get yourself into the same situation. If not I can just refer you to a couple of good pool-boys or a cable-guy.
